Kind, intelligent, caring, careful and patriotic progressives like you (and me) are just not a thing in that ecosystem. And I don’t know whether you’ve dipped your toe in those waters recently, but if you do, you may be alarmed by what you learn about yourself, first and foremost that you don’t exist at all. I’m confident he may dabble in right-wing talk radio as well. We can assume that your neighbor consumes-in the absolute best case scenario-a good deal of Fox News. The first and most generous is that he simply could not see why a Trump campaign sign and its little brother Blue Lives Matter would be controversial at all. My suspicion is that he simply doesn’t see how any rational person could disagree with the messages of his front-yard signs. There are two possible reasons why he put those signs up. What’s the best way to express that? I know: a flag.” That’s it. He thought: “I would like for Donald Trump to be re-elected. He probably is! He just didn’t apply any of those things here. And it’s not because the guy isn’t capable of care, concern or circumspection. You couldn’t do it, could you? I did all my best imaginatin’ and I couldn’t. Picture him with his finger making little circles on the trackpad, cursor orbiting the BUY button, asking himself “Do I? Should I?” Visualize the family dinner where they explore and evaluate the implications of these flags and the messages they send to all who see them. Now close your eyes and imagine your neighbor putting this much care, concern and circumspection into his yard flag choices. Immediately after reading your question, I attempted a little thought experiment, and I’d like for you to try it yourself. But is that just an escalation? A middle finger to his middle finger? By putting up my own sign, and then seeking affirmation for that sign from strangers on social media, am I adding to the division in this country because it might fray my relationship with my neighbor? Should I instead knock on their door and begin a dialogue?Īm I coward? Am I overthinking this? Please, help! I'd like to put up a Biden sign, or a "Hate Has No Home Here" sign, to at least show the other neighbors, the people who drive by, and the delivery people that we don't share our neighbor's politics.
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It's like a big middle finger, whether they know it or not. they're Trump supporters? They reject the idea of Black Lives Matter? These people are very kind, perhaps the kindest and most generous people on our suburban block. A week later―the day after the Breonna Taylor grand jury came back-he added a Blue Lives Matter flag to the pole. My neighbor across the street just put a giant Trump/Pence flag in their front yard. Ask Dave your own question by emailing him a All answers are legally binding.
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Every Monday, Esquire's editor-at-large and resident (unlicensed) therapist Dave Holmes answers a question from readers.